Should an anti social nerd with no friends and social anxiety get into trades? College didn't workout.

Should an anti social nerd with no friends and social anxiety get into trades? College didn't workout. I've never done any handyman repair in my life.

  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Bet you’d be fine. Tradies are usually pretty chill even with awkward dudes. If you do good work you’ll be fine.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      100% wrong. "Tradies' usually work in small teams, nobody wants to deal with an asshole and a wierdo all day.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Define weird.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          If you're on this website you're already weird. If you're on this website and have the self-awareness to describe how weird you are, as OP has done, you're too weird to function in a team of tradesmen.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            anti social weirdos would get destroyed in the trades
            if you can't take banter your suicide rate is going to be higher than a chud

            So am I just fucked? No wonder there's no zoomers in trades. Look like I'll stick to McDonalds...

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              I'm a total spastic assburger, probably similar situation to you. College was miserable and felt totally pointless, so I quit. Have a decent mechanical background though.
              Ended up becoming a machinist after taking a year long trade school course. Really enjoy the work. As far as talking I only really need to speak to the first shift guy, the third shift guy, the tool crib guy, and my supervisor on a given day. I go to the old man that trained me for advice on jobs and occasionally get pulled into conversations by some other guy, but beyond that it's mostly basic greetings, "hey have you seen bossman?" or "can you help me lift this?" I'm more talkative now compared to when I started but it happened pretty naturally and wasn't really forced into it. My understanding is that it's quite different on first shift though.

              If you can function in a service or retail environment you can almost certainly manage at least some of the trades.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Don’t take this black pill. I know this half retarded EPILECTIC Native American kid training as an electricians apprentice to install LIGHT FIXTURES off all things. Works with a very southern pawn stars type of guy who took him in under his wing. Btw everything this tard says is an ancient hymn of cringe and just generally retarded and socially inept. I went to college then dropped out during covid after 3 sems, now I paint the highways and do 30 mins of actual work a day for 8-12 hrs at 17/hr. Just don’t be content with shitty bosses cause you can prolly find a better gig somewhere else is my zoomer philosophy.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >If you're on this website you're already weird
            Then how do fucks on this board have jobs then?

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              hid our powerlevels

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Not 100% wrong. As long as you can function well enough not to disturb others and communicate technical things well enough, you'd be fine. Just be sure to speak up in loud environments. I have a really quiet coworker I work with occasionally. He's a fine person, but he is sometimes too quiet when we do team task.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You can be a weirdo, just be interesting. If you're unlucky and land in a crew of meth heads then just bounce and try somewhere else.
    There's a wide range of amounts crews are willing to teach you and shit they're trying to drag you through. Commercial pays better at the cost of a lot of freedoms.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    anti social weirdos would get destroyed in the trades
    if you can't take banter your suicide rate is going to be higher than a chud

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You're perfect for the electrical trade. We pride in autists being good at math and bending pipe and ohm's law. Just don't get drunk at the company christmas party and you'll make a great impression on everyone. I got drunk once and got in a fight with a drywaller. They liked how I didn't go down against a 300 lb guy.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Sure, but if I were you I'd pick a trade with a more technical side. I'd recommend: electrician (as suggested - especially commercial/indistrial), machinist/CNC (lotsa programming to learn, work indoors, get to make cool weird shit), HVAC service (again commercial/industrial especially building controls), or welding (plenty of other weirdos, lots of different styles you can specialize in).
      Stay away from trades that are mainly brute force work like general construction, roofing, drywall, flooring, and unless you love playing with poo definitely avoid plumbing.
      As a newbie/apprentice you'll take a fair amount of shit from the guys and end up doing the shit tasks at first but keep a thick skin, work hard, and learn everything you can about your chosen trade. Trades is a good place to work on social skills because no one expects tradies to be eloquent and you won't be around customers long enough for them to see how weird you are. You'll get the hang of dealing with people, it's not hard. Just don't ever take things personal and stay professional at all times.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You are the typical person that enters trades. Your opportunities for success in the trades are astounding right now given the labour shortage. Right now you have the advantage of boundless job opportunities if you live in a developing region. This means that if one job is not working out, underpaid, no advancement, not a positive environment, etc; you can always keep applying as you work and have job opportunities just in case. It's worth knowing you should enter this field prepared to take some verbal abuse and encounter some tough situations that you'll get through and learn from. As you work and develop skills and work ethic, you will become more and more valuable and able to advocate your wage.

    Which trade you choose and you may decide you want to switch trades, (which having broad experience is good) I would look toward getting an apprenticeship and joining a union if entrepreneurship/business ownership is not a direction you're interested in at the moment. Apprentices typically make better wages sooner and the mentorship gets you learning quicker.

    A few things to know:
    Show up, even if a little sick, or whatever, just show up. The dumbest worker that shows up every day will still be the most valuable employee.

    Never settle for being undervalued. Be aware of what you are worth in the market from studying the market. Understand your level of skill in relation to that value. It's worthwhile to take a pay cut as incentive to learn, but not too low and not for too long.

    Entrepreneurs will earn more than union or employees, running a business is where the money is.

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm also an anti-social nerd at heart so I know what that social anxiety feels like and I know how crippling it can be at times. The good news is that the anxiety will go away once you find a routine and find yourself among good colleagues. With a trade you'll either work closely with the same handful of people and/or independently.

    The beauty of trades is that there's a whole variety of different trades to choose from - sure, some trades pay better than others and some are more physical than others but ultimately there's no one glove fits all.
    You mention that you've never done anything like trades before - that doesn't have to be a negative thing, instead see it as a positive because you can be excited to try different trades or research them to get an idea what would be best for your personal innate abilities and interests.

    My advice for working in any trade environment is that people admire hard work and humility.
    If you find yourself working in a trade either via a paid apprenticeship program or entry level, then be willing to do the hard physical work, be keen to learn and observe and become as competent as possible as quick as possible - be humble and try your best and have confidence in yourself once you start picking up the experience and skill. This will get you further than you think in trade and life in general.
    My further advice is never think you're not capable, I once had no self confidence and automatically assumed I wasn't good enough and that's exactly what I got. When I started to believe in myself I saw results and started to achieve.

    Don't give up! You're at that stage in life where you're trying to find direction and make something of yourself - the fact that you're thinking of doing something new despite your anxieties tells me you can be successful. Life has a funny way of coming together in ways you could have never imagined!

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Reading comments I'm actually realizing how antisocial trades actually are, as an employee that is lmao. I literally talk to almost no one. Granted I've moved into a project management position now so it's changing.

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Machinist here, willing to teach you everything I know

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      what is this?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Looks like augers of some kind.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        asp-augers syndrome

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    The trades are full of weird dudes. My cousin used to tell me about these two Polish brothers who would paint with radioactive prints, all sorts of weird hobbies. Your co-workers will just tell their wives and kids about this guy at work. You good. Just don't be a gay.

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's one thing to be a quiet guy but if you're anti social personality comes off as being a dick you won't fit in. Job sites require interaction whether it be between workers or workers and superintendent.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      So you're typical goy gamer gay twink zoomer won't be able to fit in and will get eaten alive by his foremen? Good.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Spoken like a personnel staff member. You sound like a business student
      >the number one rule in business is always being friendly
      Yes, positive and safe interactions are essential, but the trades are especially hard on you if you have no boundaries.

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Most people are fine and even cool. A couple of them even went out of their way to break me out of my shell. There's going to be some assholes and unpleasent people to deal with, but just hang in there and get in the habit of being someone worth apprenticing.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    That’s what I’m doing. Wasted my life taking drugs and playing video games. I’m 30 now and study welding, electrical installation, and drive a forklift/labour/fix stuff, hang tv’s, landscaping the rest of the time.

    Life’s good man, tired though.

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Have something unique or positive about you that just doesn’t leave a shitty taste in peoples mouth if possible (really good at X, always leaves site clean, smells not like asshole) If you’re not insane, most people just see you as “that guy who does X” or “dude who brought donuts once.” No politics unless you’re a rageaholic or in an echo room, then go right ahead

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      This is actually excellent advice, from my experience in the UK.

      If you work hard, and don’t make other peoples jobs harder, people will at worst: leave you alone and at best: get on with you despite your affectations.

      Attitude beats ability in 9 out of 10 situations on site, every time.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >No politics
      But what if I'm funny about it and make jokes? Like call myself an anarcho- monarchist and call the boss a king while wearing his least favorite colors?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        If you're with bros you can talk whatever you want, but you're working. You need to not say stupid or motivated crap in front of the boss, customers, or the knobs that are going to turn around and set traps for you.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        This is either a shit troll or you are genuinely retarded.

        Working on site is not like talking to people here, you have to openly make fun of people and be able to take it yourself. Calling someone a raging gay for no reason on site will make people think your a freak. Calling someone a dull cunt when they make a mistake is normal. It’s hard to explain if you don’t already have some social skills, but quiet people do better on site than weird cunts.

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Catch on the new trends in wood construction. CLT is awesome all the way from assembling the material to the creativity applications allow for.

    You can both make use of your nerd skills or be the grunt - at site - piecing the building together.

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Day 2 and new guy starts talking about the garden gnomes

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      man I worked with a guy who grew up in rural Nevada. If you really wanted to set him off you would mention injuns. Growing up near the reservation did not give him any good experiences with them.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is it positive or negative?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Positive imo.

        Tin foil hats are tolerated on site because most people on sites are right leaning.

        Hippies can’t use tools.

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Trades to avoid as a weirdo: chippy, brickie, roofer, ground worker, plumber.

    Trades ideal for weirdos: welding, spark, mechanic, CNC programmer, machinist.

    Like another anon said, some trades are brute force and for strong idiots, others are for technically minded autists. Choose wisely

  17. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Sparky here. It kinda depends on the job and the crew. Your average foreman is an illiterate alcoholic who hates his home life and will take it out on you so you need a thick skin.

    Some days you'll get your instructions in the morning and will just say bye to everyone at quitting time.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    As long as you aren't a complete mess up and are also entirely unbearable to work with you'll do just fine

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >I've never done any handyman repair in my life.
    for that reason alone, no. you need the skills.
    anti-social nerds: yes.
    no creative skills: no.

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