Need advice. My boyfriend is quite overweight, he seems to be ok for the most part when we go on hikes but the downhill part always gets him. If it’s even the smallest bit rocky or the ground has a bit of mud he always slips and completely wipes out on the way down.
The past few times he wiped out completely on the way down and this happened three hikes in a row.
He thinks he is cursed but I told him it’s likely because of his weight.
The other issue is that he literally has poor vision and refuses to get glasses or even checked. He has had poor vision for several years now. I even notice it when he is driving. Im not sure if this could be part of why he slips but he claims he can see well for at least a few meters. He is also claiming his vision has improved but he hasn’t gotten it tested for a few years.
Does anyone have general advice or tips I can give him for hiking overall?
He moves very slowly too so it’s not like we’re being too fast or something.
I tried explaining to him about the 10 essentials but he doesn’t care and thinks I’m being ridiculous. He keeps saying he doesn’t care if he gets wet and we’re not that far from the car ever for it to matter (our hikes usually last a few hours in total maximum, but we have gone up steep places that would become dangerous if it started to rain). Does anyone have advice?
I also tried explaining hypothermia to him and he doesn’t care about what I have to say. Also he finds backpacks annoying and uncomfortable.
Last time we had a scare where I saw a deer running away and heard a growling bear noise right after and it was really hard to even convince him to turn back around. Idk what to do.
Pic related are the shoes he wears hiking
First of all, post breasts+timestamp. Secondly, dump his ass.
I’m trans. Not sure if that matters.
I’m OP and not trans but ok ?
Yes it does kind of matter
>I’m trans. Not sure if that matters.
Depends, do you have breasts or no?
>I'm trans.
That's half a word, skippy.
He sounds like an idiot.
There's nothing wrong with having or wearing glasses so long as you don't choose the autism-style ones.
Contacts and lasik also exist.
For everything else, maybe get some nordic walking poles to help with the downhill. Or just tell him to stop being such an insufferable oaf and dump his ass.
Ngl he is kinda insufferable sometimes
He doesn’t care about his health he only likes going on hikes with me because it’s something to do and he likes the views and he likes to take pictures
The glasses thing isn’t money related because he has enough money and isn’t frugal so he doesn’t mind spending it. Even if he’s self conscious about being attractive that wouldn’t really make sense unless he still cares about being attractive to other females which I’m starting to presume he does.
So if I love him I’m supposed to stay with someone who doesn’t like logic? Lol
Well, it's different from men to women. A man need not be concerned with a woman's intelligence or lackthereof. So long as she's faithful, listens, cooks, and cleans, she can believe in fairytales for all it matters. You just give them the good ol "that's nice honey", when they show you a "top 5 gnome sightings" video or complain about Trump.
If you're online complaining to strange men (a Freudian cry for sexual attention) about things you obviously consider deal breakers regarding your boyfriend, you probably don't love him then. Break it off. Also, post bobs. If you're gonna be single soon, might as well do one for the fellas on PrepHole
Thanks for the hiking advice for my overweight boyfriend
Assuming this is not bait....
Sounds like he is really uncomfortable and out of his comfort zone. So the stress for him is high. Good on you for caring enough to go through this with him. It's definitely good. Hard now but will be beneficial, maybe even in ways you don't know yet.
Trekking poles help with balance and stability. Downhill sections can be really hard for the ankle muscles and glutes (muscles on the front of the leg above the knee) so if the first part of the hike has him tired, then the down hills will be very difficult. Might need to start with even easier hikes than you are now.
Unfortunately with his other complains and attitudes towards self care align with someone who has low self esteem and maybe other emotional issues. Your a saint for helping him. I hope my wife would do the same if I was in a low place.
That being said, make sure you also take care of yourself. You cannot change people. But you can give them the space to make mistakes and encourage them. GLHF
glutes are your ass, not your leg, dumbass
The ass is part of the legs.
Hope this helps.
The entire point of this thread is "Hey Im girl!!! Dont freak out now you silly boys!!"
Dont respond to some fat boomer larping in his flithy one bedroom apartment
it's a gay anon
You missed the part where he says he is a girl
>If it’s even the smallest bit rocky or the ground has a bit of mud he always slips and completely wipes out on the way down.
I weigh 95kg/210lbs and don't eat shit on descents. If he's merely overweight and not obese then it's most likely his lack of physical conditioning rather than just his weight. Get him some poles and a gym membership.
>10 essentials
Hard to tell if you're being too autistic about this or not. If you're going for a walk that's 3km each direction in a built up area with a temperate climate then you definitely do not need a topographic map and compass and full winter gear.
It also sounds a lot like this is your hobby and he just indulges you by coming along, which is fine, but you should set realistic expectations. The most important thing isn't solving the physical problems like eyesight and stability, it's making sure he has fun and stays emotionally invested in what you're doing. Things like
>He keeps saying he doesn’t care if he gets wet and we’re not that far from the car ever for it to matter
sound like he's mostly just out of his comfort zone and wants you to shut up about rain jackets because he's having a bad time right now. Managing that is more about making sure he doesn't feel like an incompetent fat blind idiot even though you're fitter than him, and you can do that by letting him take more control: ask him to get you a new rain jacket for your birthday and research which one is best out of X Y and Z, or plan a route when you're busy.
It's a homosexual. I can tell by the way he's not calling in a rescue chopper 2 miles from the start of the walk.
The ass is not on the front of your legs above the knees like
claimed; that's clearly the quads.
Hope this helps.
>Hope this helps.
Indeed helped my reading comprehension
Use a walking stick dumbass
>is quite overweight
>he literally has poor vision and refuses to get glasses or even checked
Your boyfriend doesn't take care of his body
>He thinks he is cursed
>he finds backpacks annoying and uncomfortable.
>Last time we had a scare (...) and it was really hard to even convince him to turn back around
He's also a wuss.
Keep dragging him PrepHole. It'll make him less fat and less of a wuss. Maybe drag him to get some glasses too.
>muddy shoe
Problem solved. Mud hardened shoes are the bane of all hikers.
Stop babysitting and mothering him. If you want to go PrepHole and he wants to join you let him take care of himself.
He's a grown "man" FFS
I also have a bf who is overweight and self conscious about it.
My recommendation is.. find out if he even wants to be outside tbh. sounds like he is uncomfortable and ruining your experience.
Might be better to go alone on the more strenuous hikes.
But if he actually does like going PrepHole, you might have to go out with him more often and help him with his personal hygiene and care.
He kind of just sounds pathetic im ngl
Tell him to go down the hills sideways
>he doesn’t care about what I have to say.
Based fatass
He's gotta take a couple spills down the hill to know the thrill
Have you tried rolling him? Maybe you could log drive him on the river. Join your local 4H for some hog pasturing tips
Ask him to check his BMI, tell him you want to be with him a long time, you love him and want him to be healthy.
This a shitpost
>bumping three days later to say this shit
Remember to sage, anon.
>don't forget the magic downdoot that totally works
lol
Stick it in his pooper